1. You love your partner and want to be with him/her.
2. You already feel married in your heart, and a ceremony would symbolize your connection.
3. The chemistry of being together generates more joy and aliveness than you experience individually.
4. You feel at home, relaxed, safe, and free to be yourself in your partner’s presence.
5. You share common interests, values and visions, and you communicate well intellectually and emotionally.
6. You support each other to achieve your personal goals and visions.
7. Your sexual connection brings you closer to your partner and yourself.
8. The quantity of your joyful time together far exceeds the quantity of upset.
9. Your life works better and you generate more success with your partner in it.
10. You feel that life has sent you this person as a blessing and gift of love.
(Cohen, Alan. Don’t Get Lucky, Get Smart : Why Your Love Life Sucks – and What You Can Do About it. Marlowe & Company, 2007)
